“Dad, what is love?”Posted: May 11, 2013
Love, love, love.
There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done.
Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung.
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game.
Dad, come on, stop singing – you’re hurting my ears.
Okay, okay. You have no love for my musical talents, ha? Never mind.
So what is love, you ask. I was wondering when you’ll get to that question.
Well, I did.
I can tell you from my own experience.
When I met your mother, I saw a beautiful, intelligent, proud and independent woman. She was tall, had the most beautiful long dark hair, amazing dark brown eyes, she had this sense of excitement about her that totally captivated me. We laughed together, we went for long strolls on the beach and talked. She made me feel like the luckiest guy alive for just being beside her.
My emotional reaction to her was an enormous attraction mentally and physically.
I wanted to be with her, to talk to her, to hold her. I felt a sense of joy whenever she was around and my heart was racing every time she picked up the phone or agreed to meet me before we were together.
So how do you know you are actually in love?
There is no way you can miss it, kid. When it happens, your whole being is responding to it, telling you – “go after this person, get her, be with her, think about her”. It occupies your mind and body till the next time you are around her.
So what exactly is it? An emotion?
It is an emotion. A very strong one. And if you recall we said that emotions are only a reaction to something else. Remember?
Yes, a reaction to values.
Right, so it is basically a PROFOUND REACTION to the values and character a person reflects. It is your judgement and appreciation of those values that invoke both mental and physical attraction like a powerful biological magnet.
So if you love someone, is it forever?
Not necessarily. This person has to continue and be your highest value.
Time is a good test to both your and your partner’s integrity of character – sometimes people find that the person they married is not exactly who they thought he or she was. But is other cases, love deepens and gets even stronger as the years go by and as you realize that you have found your true soul mate and both of you are going through the different phases of life with growing attraction and admiration to one another.
Can I tell you a secret?
You sure can.
I love this girl from my class. I think I want to marry her some day.
Why do you love her?
I don’t really know.
I think you need to know. But you can sleep on it… hmm… sorry, sorry, don’t sleep on it… I meant… just…
Dad, what’s wrong?
<smiling> Never mind. You’ll understand it one day. Just go to sleep and tell me what you feel about this girl tomorrow. Okay?
Okay Dad. I’ll sleep on it… whatever that means.
Good night my “growing-way-to-fast-and-asking-too-many-tough-questions” kid.
Good night Dad.